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Published 4 months ago • 1 min read

A lot of people like to say being an entrepreneur is like being on a rollercoaster:

“The highs are so high and the lows are so low and the swings between will give you whiplash!”

And, yeah, sure, there are plenty of those moments.

But a lot of building a new business is just grinding things out — hour after hour, day after day. You have to do a TON of real boring stuff that isn’t really hard it is just tedious and mind numbing, and endless. It isn’t just a roller coaster, it is a roller coaster in the desert.

It might actually be easier to prepare for the hustle than for the grind.

And this is how we met a part that is so anxious about being in the desert that it will create drama just to stay engaged and feel alive.

“I just want to feel like big things are happening.”

When we went inside to get to know the adrenaline seeker part, we found a kid who felt deeply shamed for not sticking with music classes.

To this day, at holiday meals around the family table, everyone loves to crack jokes about quitting piano. Any news about any success turns into, “I guess its a good thing your boss didn’t ask you to play the piano for that promotion hahahah!”

That part felt so shamed and alone that they became afraid of anything or anytime something hard felt boring or something boring felt hard, so another part of them would start kicking the hornets nest whenever they felt that trigger. That part seeks adrenaline, bigger ideas, and bigger changes. Anything that will bury the boredom that seems so dangerous.

Once the little piano class dropout felt understood — once we gave them the love and encouragement they needed to try new things and to know they are ok if they don’t like all of them — the adrenaline seeker could relax a little bit. And rather than ejecting out of the boring hard parts to find something “bigger”, they started pouring their energy into making the hard parts fun.

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Until next time,

Thomas Knoll

Founder, YourSecondCall.com

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Parts Work

by Thomas Knoll – Founder, YourSecondCall.com

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